01
Agree on phone-free zones and times
Mealtimes, the hour before bed, the first 20 minutes after arriving home — designating certain times or spaces as phone-free creates moments of guaranteed presence. Start with one and build from there.
Boundaries & Independence
Setting Digital Boundaries in Your Relationship
The average person spends over six hours a day looking at a screen. Without intentional digital boundaries, a significant portion of couple time becomes parallel phone-scrolling rather than actual connection. This matters.
02
Discuss social media transparency
What feels okay to post publicly about your relationship? Who is it okay to message privately? These conversations feel awkward to have, but unspoken assumptions about social media have ended real relationships. Make the expectations explicit.
03
Address the sleep-scroll problem
Many couples lie in bed next to each other both looking at their phones — the most unromantic way to end a day. Charging phones outside the bedroom or establishing a no-phone time before sleep changes the tone of bedtime entirely.
04
Talk about ex contact
Different couples have very different comfort levels with contact between one partner and an ex. Rather than assuming your standard is the standard, have an explicit conversation about what feels okay to both of you — not to control, but to be on the same page.
05
Check in about technology's impact on your connection
Occasionally ask each other: 'Do you feel like technology is getting in the way of us lately?' It's a simple question that can open an important conversation before a problem becomes a pattern.