15 questions about
in-laws & extended family
Pick one and start there. You don't have to go in order.
- 1
"How do you feel about your relationship with my family?"
- 2
"Is there anything about my family you find difficult that you've been careful about saying?"
- 3
"How much time with extended family feels right to you?"
- 4
"What role do you want our families to play in our lives?"
- 5
"Is there a family boundary you wish we were clearer about?"
- 6
"How do you feel when family gives us unsolicited advice?"
- 7
"What does it mean to you for me to have a good relationship with your family?"
- 8
"What's one thing you love about my family?"
- 9
"What's one thing about family gatherings that's hard for you?"
- 10
"How do you feel about family obligations — celebrations, visits, calls?"
- 11
"Are there any family dynamics you wish I understood better?"
- 12
"What would you want to do differently from how our families did things?"
- 13
"What does 'family comes first' mean to you in practice?"
- 14
"How do you feel about money and family — borrowing, lending, gifting?"
- 15
"What's something you've learned about me from watching me with my family?"
How to use these
conversation starters
Over dinner
Pick one question at the start of the meal. Let the conversation lead where it wants.
On a long drive
No eye contact makes some questions easier. Road trips are perfect for depth.
Before sleep
One question each before the lights go out. This becomes a ritual you'll both love.
On a walk
Walking side by side reduces pressure. The movement helps the conversation flow.
Sunday morning
Slow morning, no agenda. Phones down. One question over coffee.
In the app
Log your answers in Relationship App: Love Story. Look back on them together.
Keep the conversation
going every day.
Daily prompts, mood check-ins, love notes, and a shared memory of every conversation you have together.