Family

Couples Questions:
Having Children

Whether you have children, want them, or are certain you don't — these questions get to what you actually think and feel beneath the social scripts.

💬 15 questions♥ For couples✔ Take turns answering✔ No wrong answers
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15 questions about
having children

Pick one and start there. You don't have to go in order.

  1. 1

    "How do you feel about having children — and has that feeling ever changed?"

  2. 2

    "What kind of parent do you think you'd be — or are you?"

  3. 3

    "What's something your own parents did that you'd want to replicate?"

  4. 4

    "What's something you'd do completely differently?"

  5. 5

    "What worries you most about raising a child in today's world?"

  6. 6

    "What kind of values would you most want to pass on?"

  7. 7

    "What does a good childhood look like, in your mind?"

  8. 8

    "Is there a non-negotiable for you when it comes to how children are raised?"

  9. 9

    "What role do you want extended family to play?"

  10. 10

    "How do you feel about how children change a relationship between two people?"

  11. 11

    "What are you most excited about as a parent — or what do you imagine you would be?"

  12. 12

    "What's the hardest part about being a parent, or what do you think it would be?"

  13. 13

    "What did you not have as a child that you'd want to make sure your children do?"

  14. 14

    "How important is it to you that your children share your beliefs?"

  15. 15

    "What would you want your children to say about you one day?"

How to use these
conversation starters

🍷

Over dinner

Pick one question at the start of the meal. Let the conversation lead where it wants.

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On a long drive

No eye contact makes some questions easier. Road trips are perfect for depth.

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Before sleep

One question each before the lights go out. This becomes a ritual you'll both love.

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On a walk

Walking side by side reduces pressure. The movement helps the conversation flow.

Sunday morning

Slow morning, no agenda. Phones down. One question over coffee.

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In the app

Log your answers in Relationship App: Love Story. Look back on them together.

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