15 questions about
family & upbringing
Pick one and start there. You don't have to go in order.
- 1
"What's the best thing your family gave you?"
- 2
"What's something you've had to unlearn from how you were raised?"
- 3
"How would you describe your family in three words?"
- 4
"What's a family ritual or tradition that meant the most to you?"
- 5
"What did love look like in your family — spoken, shown, or assumed?"
- 6
"Which parent are you most like, and how do you feel about that?"
- 7
"What's something your family never talked about that you wish they had?"
- 8
"What do you want to carry forward from your family into your own life?"
- 9
"What do you want to leave behind?"
- 10
"How did your family handle conflict?"
- 11
"What's the most complicated relationship in your family and why?"
- 12
"What's something you understand about your parents now that you didn't as a child?"
- 13
"If you could change one thing about how you were raised, what would it be?"
- 14
"What did your family teach you about money?"
- 15
"What would you most want your family to say about who you became?"
How to use these
conversation starters
Over dinner
Pick one question at the start of the meal. Let the conversation lead where it wants.
On a long drive
No eye contact makes some questions easier. Road trips are perfect for depth.
Before sleep
One question each before the lights go out. This becomes a ritual you'll both love.
On a walk
Walking side by side reduces pressure. The movement helps the conversation flow.
Sunday morning
Slow morning, no agenda. Phones down. One question over coffee.
In the app
Log your answers in Relationship App: Love Story. Look back on them together.
Keep the conversation
going every day.
Daily prompts, mood check-ins, love notes, and a shared memory of every conversation you have together.