15 questions about
love languages
Pick one and start there. You don't have to go in order.
- 1
"When do you feel most loved by me?"
- 2
"What does feeling unloved or unseen feel like for you?"
- 3
"What kind of touch feels most connecting to you?"
- 4
"How important are words of affirmation to you, and what kind of words land deepest?"
- 5
"What acts of service mean the most to you?"
- 6
"What's a gift that has genuinely moved you, and why?"
- 7
"How much does quality time mean to you — and what counts as real quality time?"
- 8
"Is there a love language you've needed more of that you haven't asked for?"
- 9
"What's something I do that says love even when you don't have words for it?"
- 10
"What's the difference between how you give love and how you prefer to receive it?"
- 11
"What did love look like in your family growing up?"
- 12
"What does neglect feel like to you — specifically?"
- 13
"How do you know when I'm trying but missing the mark?"
- 14
"What makes you feel truly seen by me?"
- 15
"What would loving you better look like this week?"
How to use these
conversation starters
Over dinner
Pick one question at the start of the meal. Let the conversation lead where it wants.
On a long drive
No eye contact makes some questions easier. Road trips are perfect for depth.
Before sleep
One question each before the lights go out. This becomes a ritual you'll both love.
On a walk
Walking side by side reduces pressure. The movement helps the conversation flow.
Sunday morning
Slow morning, no agenda. Phones down. One question over coffee.
In the app
Log your answers in Relationship App: Love Story. Look back on them together.
Keep the conversation
going every day.
Daily prompts, mood check-ins, love notes, and a shared memory of every conversation you have together.