15 questions about
mental health
Pick one and start there. You don't have to go in order.
- 1
"How would you describe your mental health right now, honestly?"
- 2
"What has been the hardest mental health challenge you've faced?"
- 3
"Is there something about your mental health you'd like me to understand better?"
- 4
"What helps you most when you're struggling?"
- 5
"What makes things worse when you're struggling, even if it's well-intended?"
- 6
"What does anxiety feel like for you — specifically?"
- 7
"Do you have patterns of thinking that you recognise aren't helpful but can't always stop?"
- 8
"How do you feel about therapy — have you tried it?"
- 9
"What do you need from me when you're in a dark period?"
- 10
"What's a coping strategy that actually works for you?"
- 11
"What's something you do for your mental health that you want to protect?"
- 12
"How has your mental health changed over time?"
- 13
"What's something you want me to know about how to love you when you're not okay?"
- 14
"Is there something about your mental health that has affected our relationship that we haven't spoken about clearly?"
- 15
"What has your experience of mental health taught you about yourself?"
How to use these
conversation starters
Over dinner
Pick one question at the start of the meal. Let the conversation lead where it wants.
On a long drive
No eye contact makes some questions easier. Road trips are perfect for depth.
Before sleep
One question each before the lights go out. This becomes a ritual you'll both love.
On a walk
Walking side by side reduces pressure. The movement helps the conversation flow.
Sunday morning
Slow morning, no agenda. Phones down. One question over coffee.
In the app
Log your answers in Relationship App: Love Story. Look back on them together.
Keep the conversation
going every day.
Daily prompts, mood check-ins, love notes, and a shared memory of every conversation you have together.