15 questions about
identity & self
Pick one and start there. You don't have to go in order.
- 1
"How would you describe yourself to someone who had never met you?"
- 2
"What part of your identity feels most essential — most you?"
- 3
"Is there a part of your identity you've inherited that doesn't feel entirely true?"
- 4
"What aspect of yourself have you most grown into as an adult?"
- 5
"How do you feel about who you were ten years ago?"
- 6
"What does it mean to you to live with integrity?"
- 7
"How much does what other people think of you affect you — really?"
- 8
"Is there a label people put on you that doesn't fit?"
- 9
"How has your sense of self changed since we've been together?"
- 10
"What do you think is the most honest version of who you are?"
- 11
"Is there something about your identity that's still in question for you?"
- 12
"What do you want to be truer of yourself in the next five years?"
- 13
"What does a good life mean to you — specifically?"
- 14
"Is there a version of yourself you've left behind that you sometimes miss?"
- 15
"What do you want to be remembered for?"
How to use these
conversation starters
Over dinner
Pick one question at the start of the meal. Let the conversation lead where it wants.
On a long drive
No eye contact makes some questions easier. Road trips are perfect for depth.
Before sleep
One question each before the lights go out. This becomes a ritual you'll both love.
On a walk
Walking side by side reduces pressure. The movement helps the conversation flow.
Sunday morning
Slow morning, no agenda. Phones down. One question over coffee.
In the app
Log your answers in Relationship App: Love Story. Look back on them together.
Keep the conversation
going every day.
Daily prompts, mood check-ins, love notes, and a shared memory of every conversation you have together.