15 questions about
communication
Pick one and start there. You don't have to go in order.
- 1
"What does feeling heard by me look like versus not being heard?"
- 2
"When is it easiest for you to talk to me — what conditions help?"
- 3
"What's something I could do to be a better listener?"
- 4
"Is there something you've been wanting to say that you haven't found the words for?"
- 5
"What do you wish I understood about how you communicate?"
- 6
"When you go quiet, what's usually happening?"
- 7
"What does it mean to you to be truly understood?"
- 8
"Is there a conversation we keep avoiding that we should have?"
- 9
"What's something I say that lands badly, even when it's not meant to?"
- 10
"What makes you feel dismissed in conversation?"
- 11
"How do you like to be approached when I want to talk about something serious?"
- 12
"When we miscommunicate, what's usually at the root of it?"
- 13
"What would better communication between us look like in practice?"
- 14
"What's the most important thing in communication for you?"
- 15
"How do you feel about how we communicate right now?"
How to use these
conversation starters
Over dinner
Pick one question at the start of the meal. Let the conversation lead where it wants.
On a long drive
No eye contact makes some questions easier. Road trips are perfect for depth.
Before sleep
One question each before the lights go out. This becomes a ritual you'll both love.
On a walk
Walking side by side reduces pressure. The movement helps the conversation flow.
Sunday morning
Slow morning, no agenda. Phones down. One question over coffee.
In the app
Log your answers in Relationship App: Love Story. Look back on them together.
Keep the conversation
going every day.
Daily prompts, mood check-ins, love notes, and a shared memory of every conversation you have together.