15 questions about
needs & asking for help
Pick one and start there. You don't have to go in order.
- 1
"What do you find hardest to ask for?"
- 2
"Is there something you need from me that you've been waiting for me to notice?"
- 3
"What stops you from asking for what you need?"
- 4
"What do you need more of right now?"
- 5
"What need of yours do I meet without you having to ask?"
- 6
"What need of yours have I been missing?"
- 7
"How do you feel about expressing needs — is it comfortable?"
- 8
"What's something you've needed from our relationship that you've been afraid to ask for?"
- 9
"What's a need you've had to learn to meet yourself?"
- 10
"What does asking for help mean to you?"
- 11
"What would you need from me this week if you let yourself say it?"
- 12
"What does dependency feel like for you — is it safe or threatening?"
- 13
"What's a need that has changed as you've got older?"
- 14
"How do you feel about needing other people in general?"
- 15
"What would it feel like to be fully met in all your needs?"
How to use these
conversation starters
Over dinner
Pick one question at the start of the meal. Let the conversation lead where it wants.
On a long drive
No eye contact makes some questions easier. Road trips are perfect for depth.
Before sleep
One question each before the lights go out. This becomes a ritual you'll both love.
On a walk
Walking side by side reduces pressure. The movement helps the conversation flow.
Sunday morning
Slow morning, no agenda. Phones down. One question over coffee.
In the app
Log your answers in Relationship App: Love Story. Look back on them together.
Keep the conversation
going every day.
Daily prompts, mood check-ins, love notes, and a shared memory of every conversation you have together.