15 questions about
conflict & disagreements
Pick one and start there. You don't have to go in order.
- 1
"What triggers you in conflict — what makes you escalate fastest?"
- 2
"What do you most need during an argument — space, connection, or resolution?"
- 3
"What do I do in conflict that makes things harder?"
- 4
"What do I do in conflict that genuinely helps?"
- 5
"What's a disagreement we handle well, and why does it work?"
- 6
"What's a pattern in how we fight that you'd like to change?"
- 7
"Do you tend to go cold or hot in conflict?"
- 8
"How long does it take you to come back after a fight?"
- 9
"What does a good repair after a conflict look like to you?"
- 10
"Is there a recurring disagreement that we haven't fully resolved?"
- 11
"What's something you're afraid of bringing up because of how it might land?"
- 12
"What does fair fighting mean to you?"
- 13
"When is it time to agree to disagree?"
- 14
"What has our history of conflict taught you about us?"
- 15
"What's something you've never fully said in a fight but that you've thought?"
How to use these
conversation starters
Over dinner
Pick one question at the start of the meal. Let the conversation lead where it wants.
On a long drive
No eye contact makes some questions easier. Road trips are perfect for depth.
Before sleep
One question each before the lights go out. This becomes a ritual you'll both love.
On a walk
Walking side by side reduces pressure. The movement helps the conversation flow.
Sunday morning
Slow morning, no agenda. Phones down. One question over coffee.
In the app
Log your answers in Relationship App: Love Story. Look back on them together.
Keep the conversation
going every day.
Daily prompts, mood check-ins, love notes, and a shared memory of every conversation you have together.