15 questions about
listening & being heard
Pick one and start there. You don't have to go in order.
- 1
"When do you feel most heard by me?"
- 2
"When do you feel least heard?"
- 3
"What does it mean to truly listen versus just wait to speak?"
- 4
"What do I do when I'm not really listening that you notice?"
- 5
"What do I do when I am really listening that feels good?"
- 6
"What's something you've been trying to tell me that I haven't quite received?"
- 7
"How do you feel about how I listen to difficult things?"
- 8
"What would listening better look like from me?"
- 9
"What does it feel like when you're not heard?"
- 10
"What does full attention from me feel like?"
- 11
"Is there something you've said that you don't feel I really took in?"
- 12
"What helps you feel understood even without a response?"
- 13
"How do you listen differently when you're tired or distracted?"
- 14
"What does being heard change for you?"
- 15
"What's the most important thing you want me to hear right now?"
How to use these
conversation starters
Over dinner
Pick one question at the start of the meal. Let the conversation lead where it wants.
On a long drive
No eye contact makes some questions easier. Road trips are perfect for depth.
Before sleep
One question each before the lights go out. This becomes a ritual you'll both love.
On a walk
Walking side by side reduces pressure. The movement helps the conversation flow.
Sunday morning
Slow morning, no agenda. Phones down. One question over coffee.
In the app
Log your answers in Relationship App: Love Story. Look back on them together.
Keep the conversation
going every day.
Daily prompts, mood check-ins, love notes, and a shared memory of every conversation you have together.