15 questions about
long-term commitment
Pick one and start there. You don't have to go in order.
- 1
"What does commitment mean to you in practice, day to day?"
- 2
"What made you decide to commit to this relationship?"
- 3
"Is there anything you're still unsure about?"
- 4
"What do you think long-term relationships require that people don't talk about?"
- 5
"What would it take to make you doubt our relationship?"
- 6
"What's something you've had to accept about me to fully commit?"
- 7
"How do you feel about the version of us that exists in twenty years?"
- 8
"What does being committed to someone's growth — not just their present self — mean?"
- 9
"How do you handle doubt when it arises in our relationship?"
- 10
"What commitment have we made that means the most to you?"
- 11
"What does 'I choose you' mean to you each day?"
- 12
"What's your definition of a successful long-term relationship?"
- 13
"What would breaking up look like for you — what would have to happen?"
- 14
"Is there anything you want us to explicitly agree on about our future?"
- 15
"What has sustained your commitment through the hardest moments?"
How to use these
conversation starters
Over dinner
Pick one question at the start of the meal. Let the conversation lead where it wants.
On a long drive
No eye contact makes some questions easier. Road trips are perfect for depth.
Before sleep
One question each before the lights go out. This becomes a ritual you'll both love.
On a walk
Walking side by side reduces pressure. The movement helps the conversation flow.
Sunday morning
Slow morning, no agenda. Phones down. One question over coffee.
In the app
Log your answers in Relationship App: Love Story. Look back on them together.
Keep the conversation
going every day.
Daily prompts, mood check-ins, love notes, and a shared memory of every conversation you have together.