15 questions about
shame & vulnerability
Pick one and start there. You don't have to go in order.
- 1
"Is there something you feel shame about that you've never spoken aloud?"
- 2
"What does shame feel like for you — where do you carry it?"
- 3
"What's something about yourself you've been afraid I'd judge?"
- 4
"What's the difference between guilt and shame for you?"
- 5
"What are you most afraid of being truly seen in?"
- 6
"What has shame cost you in your life?"
- 7
"What would it mean to put down your biggest source of shame?"
- 8
"Is there something about your past that you're still ashamed of?"
- 9
"What makes you feel most vulnerable?"
- 10
"What makes vulnerability feel safe for you?"
- 11
"Is there something you've hidden from me out of shame?"
- 12
"What's something you've been brave enough to be vulnerable about?"
- 13
"What does being truly seen feel like — terrifying, freeing?"
- 14
"What's something you've never admitted that you could admit now?"
- 15
"What would it feel like to be loved in your shame, not in spite of it?"
How to use these
conversation starters
Over dinner
Pick one question at the start of the meal. Let the conversation lead where it wants.
On a long drive
No eye contact makes some questions easier. Road trips are perfect for depth.
Before sleep
One question each before the lights go out. This becomes a ritual you'll both love.
On a walk
Walking side by side reduces pressure. The movement helps the conversation flow.
Sunday morning
Slow morning, no agenda. Phones down. One question over coffee.
In the app
Log your answers in Relationship App: Love Story. Look back on them together.
Keep the conversation
going every day.
Daily prompts, mood check-ins, love notes, and a shared memory of every conversation you have together.